ok.  So most of you know that Leesa and I are friends (of a sort.  hehe).  So two of her friends have recently suffered miscarriages/blighted ovums.  After the first one, I felt somewhat awkward?(screwed that up) being around that person, with me being pregnant.  If I see the second one when shes around next I know I will feel awkward then as well.

The question is, and this isn’t about Leesa’s friends, because I am finding this situation elsewhere, they happen to be a good example, why should/do I feel embarrassed that I am pregnant and they are not?  I mean, there is the obvious that they have just suffered a great loss, but still.  I have had a miscarriage.  I have an idea of what they are going through  The huge difference here, is that I and my husband spent 7 years and $30k to get where we are.  People know this.  I am not shy about it.  Hell, ask me one question, and I’ll pretty much give you our entire infertility history. 

I try to be considerate, but I think I just don’t have the level of empathy of others.  We had a girl at work crying every day last week, coming in 3 hours late one day because she was so upset that her daughter had gotten her first period.  I tried to say the appropriate things (what are they in this situation?), but was pretty much thinking that the daughter would be done with the period before the mom stopped crying.

So I guess my question is, Is my inability to give 100% sympathy (keep in mind that I do fel quite sympathetic for these women) a natural result from their ability to get pregnant without medical intervention, or am I just a cold-hearted bitch?