Seeing as how my prior regular infertility/parenting board kept running so incredibly slow and being down a lot, I gravitated to one that Pam told me about.  Since the first trimester with Becca, I have been lurking there.  Since Becca was originally due in January, and with the gestational diabetes, we were expecting to be induced two weeks early, I lurked with the January group, which has now continued onto the mommy group.  I also lurk the St. Louis buddy/infertility group.  Just for general info about drs around here, and originally because I could get some of Pam’s updates before she emailed me.

Can I just say that a lot of these people are whiners and just ridiculous?  at least to me.  How can you be newly married, as in just a few months, or in some cases not even married yet, trying to get pregnant for only about 4 months, and crying and complaining about how you just can’t handle the infertility rollercoaster?  How about you give it a try for over 7 years, spending over $35,000, not having the retirement plan, equity in your house that your peer group has, and knowing that you will need to spend at least another $15k to go back for another kid?  How about going through one cancelled ivf cycle, two fresh ones and two frozen cycles before you get knocked up.  How about you do get knocked up on your first complete cycle and have a miscarriage at 7 weeks.

Then, on to the women who have kids.  There is one, that I like to call trailer-trash, not to insult any of those who live in a trailer, but she did until just recently.  This woman lets her kid sit around for one week with a four inch rash on his neck that is oozing gunk, and says that people shouldn’t harras her about it.  Why take him to the dr if it doesn’t seem to be bothering him?  She doesn’t put her kid (just under one year old) in a car seat if she is driving to her mom’s.  Why waste the time?  She lets him drink Pepsi.  Nice and nutritious.  She takes him into the bathroom with her everytime she has to potty.  Not like he can smell anything, right?  He takes a bath each time with either her or her husband in the bath.  I don’t think from her posts that he has ever had a bath being in the tub by himself.

It’s not as though I claim to be the perfect parent.  I don’t think there truly is such a thing, after all, my kid eats dirt on occasion.  But the no car seat thing?  Just plain stupid.

This is not directed at anyone I know or meant as a pity-party.  I just get aggravated reading these peoples whines.  Yes, I could just stay away from there, but it’s sorta like a train wreck, you just have to look.